For those of us who grew up with vinyl records, we know what it sounds like when a record skips. You hear the same music or lyrics over and over until you move the arm over the scratch. Or you could tape a penny onto the arm to try to create enough pressure for the needle to find it’s way through. You had a favorite song, off a favorite record, by a favorite group. It’s difficult to give it all up.
I hear the same stories over and over when visiting with my step-dad at the Retirement Community for Active Seniors where he resides. I have tried all the hints; validate what they are saying, distract or redirect them to another activity. But within minutes, he repeats the same question, the same story over and over. I have not found a way to tape a penny to the arm that is guiding that needle through the grooves in his mind.
I dearly love this man; he’s the remaining elder of our family. I try to spend time with him regularly. In order to do so, I have learned to set limits. In a typical visit, I hear the same story every 5 minutes. When we sit with his friends, almost all of them do exactly the same thing. I cannot change the course of his life but I try to show up and show some compassion. And, I try to learn from what I am witnessing. I plan to plan for my own inevitable changes.
Repeat after me- Plan on aging. It eventually happens. Normal aging does not condemn you to assisted living, but the majority of the people residing where my step-dad lives have some obvious degree of dementia. Dementia is a broad term and Alzheimer’s is a form of dementia. Alzheimer’s numbers are alarming. An estimated 5.3 million Americans have this disease.
This number continues to grow. In ten years, the number of people 65 + with Alzheimer’s is estimated to reach over 7 million. My friend has a mom that lives in the same Retirement Community as my step-dad. She is moving her mom to another facility, one that can seamlessly transition residents from assisted living to full-time nursing care. Her mom’s health is diminishing. My friend is planning for the next step.
Repeat after me, start thinking about your own future. Repeat after me- plan on aging.
Hi Mary Elizabeth,
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I’ve just been nominated you for the Liebster Award.
To find out what it’s all about and how to keep it going, stop by at: https://lindathompsonsite.wordpress.com/2015/05/04/and-the-nominees-for-the-liebster-award-are
I had to answer these questions:
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? Hawaii
What is your favourite song? Hey Jude
What’s the hardest decision you ever had to make? Not sure this applies to my life.
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Extrovert
What is your favourite book or author? Harper Lee
What quality do you value most in a person? Honesty
What’s the nicest thing anyone ever did for you? Opened a door…
Are you a morning person or a night owl? Morning
Do you play a sport? If so, which one(s)? No more sports for me.
Who would you say is the person who most influenced you in life? Toss up – mom/dad
Chocolate or Chips? Chocolate chips…
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